Is there a link between your self-image and money? You bet there is.For women especially, money is often tied to self-esteem issues such as worthiness, perception of capability and hope for the future.
The first step out of this mess is to separate yourself from money, which in itself is inert. While we all know this (money is just paper and metal, right?), the understanding does not easily lead to the ability to separate our psyche from the issue of money. We think of the topic as volatile, explosive, painful, sometimes humiliating, or frightening. Many of us deal with the discomfort by avoiding the subject altogether.
NOTE: Avoidance does not make financial issues disappear.
The truth is it is our beliefs about ourselves, our lives and our decisions that cause all these feelings, not the money itself. Like trading animal pelts for a canoe, money is simply an agreed-upon medium of exchange, and has no inherent meaning or value, except that which we give it.
More people have suffered the consequences of avoiding money issues than can be counted. The ramifications can be devastating and long-lasting and complex. Even if you must take baby steps to look at your money situation, take them you must, and I will be here with you every step of the way.
As a start, try reading some enlightening and educational 'starter' material. Following is a short list of intelligent books written by women for women. Pick up used or new copies by clicking the link, or find them at your local library:
- Rich Woman by millionaire real estate investor Kim Kiyosaki
- What's Your Net Worth? by Women's Financial Network founder Jennifer Openshaw
- Money Can Buy Happiness by MSN Money columnist MP Dunleavey
It is not necessary to take any action when you first begin to learn about finances. The more you learn, the more comfortable you will get, and I promise you this: there will come a day when you will know exactly what to do, and you will feel comfortable with your decisions. Anyone can do this. YOU can do it.
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